Catch flights, not feelings! Why not both?! In a world full of “thank you, next!”, dare to think love is limitless. As I approach my seventh 20th birthday anniversary, I definitely did not picture it like this. I believe that it’s possible to do both… and manage a long distance relationship while traveling too! Let me rewind a little bit, and tell you about how this all got started.
November 2013, we were at a 1920s themed Murder Mystery party at our community college. Juan and I were just friends at the time. He looked at me like I was the last Coca-Cola bottle in the desert, and I don’t blame him. That night, we exchanged numbers and talked nearly every day, even to this day. We also found out we were neighbors so we spent a lot of time together.
In July 2013, we both obtained a scholarship to study abroad in Beijing, China. We explored the city, learned about the Chinese culture and language. We officially became a couple while visiting the Temple of Heaven.
After one year of dating, we began our long distance relationship to pursue our studies in different universities. Although the distance has been a challenge, we are now closer than ever. During the holidays, we often spend it at home in Miami or plan trips together. 6 years later, after exploring 12 countries together, our love has gone the distance.
It has not always been easy, peasy, lemon squeezy. Sometimes it is difficult, difficult, lemon difficult. But we have worked out our issues as they arise. What has keep our relationship lasting and healthy is: communication, trust, effort, and honesty.
My advice to anyone considering a long distance relationship is:
- Always be honest about your needs, wants, and wishes.
- Be transparent about what your boundaries and what you are willing to offer.
- Remember relationships do not have to hold you back or make you unhappy.
- You can both be independent and do your own thing, while being a part of each other’s lives.
- It takes more than love; it takes a lot of effort on both sides.
Currently Juan is Cairo studying abroad for the year, while I pursue my graduate degree in New York. Juan plans to join me in New York next fall. And, he is coming to visit for a week next month!
What do you think? Can a long distance relationship last? If yes, what does it take? Let’s connect and let me know your thoughts below or on my latest blog post.